Saturday, January 9, 2010

The time has come.

The time has come for me to say good-bye to Dothan. I have been dreading this day. Actually I haven't even allowed the thought to really even cross my mind. Anytime I let myself go there the tears begin to flow. I can no longer avoid it. We move Monday so here goes nothing.....

If you didn't know, I don't want to move. Nothing against the town of Madison/Huntsville. I hear it is a fabulous place to live and I have experienced its fabulous shopping. No doubt that is a great town, one I may even come to love if I allow myself. I just can't picture myself living anywhere else but Dothan. This sounds partly ridiculous because I have only lived here for 4 1/2 years, not all my life, but if you know me, you know I become attached very easily and quickly and I have a lot of reasons to be attached to this town.

After a very brief 6 month stint in Nashville when we were first married, Shay was transferred here. This is our first "home." Yes, our first house, which is going to be hard for me to leave behind but our first "home" as a new family. This is where my children were born. That alone is sentimental for me. I will miss driving by the hospital and hearing Mary Selwyn say, "Mommy, you see that beautiful city? That's where I was born and Adeline was born." It is so sweet. (I think she calls it a beautiful city because it reminds her of the Emerald City from the Wizard of Oz.)

We have met amazing people here in Dothan and developed friendships that will last a lifetime. I'm so grateful for those that went above and beyond for us and really became our family. I wish I could talk about each and every person but I can't. It would take years! I do, however, have to mention the Chambers once again. We literally would not have survived the last four years without Mark and Mitzi. I believe that with my whole heart. I cannot tell you the number of times I have dropped my kids off at her house, sometimes unannounced, or the number of meals she has cooked for us. They have done so much for us and we could never thank them enough. They have loved us and shown us the utmost kindness. They are wonderful. We love them and are going to miss them more than words can express.

This town is the epitome of "Southern Hospitality." That is the best way to describe my time here. I have learned so much about hospitality, friendship, kindness and what it means to truly love others. When I say love, I mean the drop everything to be by your side kind of love. The people in this town "do" whatever they can for you. They don't just say, "let me know if there is anything I can do," they say, "I'm here put me to work," or "this is what I am doing for you." I'm thankful for the opportunity to not only be surrounded by these kinds of people but to be molded by them as well. They have changed my view of real friendship and hospitality. These are lessons that will stick with me always.

I could go on forever. I have nothing bad to say about this town. I have been completely content in our life here. I think I will miss everything and everyone! I know the Lord has big plans for us in Madison and will provide us with friends and even a new church family that is just as wonderful. It is just hard to imagine. The biggest thing I have to remember is that Huntsville will NEVER be Dothan. I will have to remind myself daily not to compare the two towns or I will NEVER be happy. So in future blogs when I talk in comparison, please remind me to stop. Shay and I were talking the other day and we both agreed that we never thought when we moved to Dothan that we would love it this much. That we would truly make it our home and want to live here forever. So I'm sure I will be saying the same thing about our new town one day.....I am very excited to have my family reunited. That is the most important thing. We love and will miss this town dearly but will most definitely be back for regular visits!
Just a few faces we will miss. Mary Selwyn's best friend Owen
Mark and Mitzi
This is the Matthews. Mrs. Matthews and Shay's Papa, Selwyn, were first cousins. When Mary Selwyn was born she saw her name in the church bulliten and called me and said she saw where we named our baby Mary Selwyn Nichols and she had a cousin from Thomasville named Selwyn Nichols. What a small world. We have really enjoyed getting to know them. We will miss visiting and spending time with them.
So this picture is really old but it was the only one I had that included some of our favorite people.
The Thompsons

The Chavers


Mandy said...

That is too sad and so sweet. You are a wonderful person. When you say that you have been surrounded by and molded by the wonderful people here, I must say that I feel the same way. And you were one of the first people to make me feel that way when you showed up in our house after Luke was born. You had never even met us! I've never been a part of a place like this, so I know why you are so sad to leave it. I'm probably not what you would describe as a "sweet" person, but I feel like I'm a little closer to it just from being around you! Thank you for always helping me and for being my friend!! I miss you already :(

Amanda said...

Oh my heart hurts for you Denise. I know how you feel...leaving somewhere that is home. I still find myself comparing Auburn to Huntsville. Nearly 3 years later. Please lets do lunch when you get up here! I would love to catch up with you.

Lindsey said...

I was thinking the same thing as Mandy; that was sad and sweet!
We hate to see ya'll go, but we wish ya'll all the best. And you're right; the most important thing is that ya'll will be together as a family. :)
That picture is quite old since MSN was just a baby. But it sure doesn't seem like that long ago. I guess you had the camera set on a timer?
And on a random note, where did you find that Dothan picture?

mitzi said...

You are too kind. Mark and I LOVED being a part of your family. I find myself using MSN's expressions( O TAY). We will really miss you. Thank goodness for fb, your blog and our phones. You know, I think nothing of driving to Montgomery for the day-so when you are in P'ville, let's work that out. Jenny Lynn won't mind!
I can't wait to see what our Lord has planned for you and Shay. We are very proud of his hard work and know this won't be your last upward move. And you will be a supportive, loving wife while you enjoy his success!!!!

Kristen said...

Oh, this post breaks my heart! So sad! Like Mitzi says, between FB, blogs, and cell phones we will all stay in touch. MSN can call and talk to Co anytime she wants!!! Post some pics when y'all get all settled in! Miss you friend!

The Dennis Family said...

I am so sad - BUT so excited for you and your family Denise.
I know that you love Dothan - and honestly its SO great that you do love it so much - think of starting a family in a city that you weren't to fond of...YIKES!
I know that you have so many GREAT memories there - and thats the hard part.
But - I am so excited for yall city, the chance to meet new people and form new friendships, etc... and like you said, you get attached very easliy and quickly - and I just know that will happen as you and your family settle into your life in Huntsville!! We are praying that the transition be smooth for all of you!

Marianna said...

Hang in there girl. I know how hard it is. I have been in those shoes. It will work out and you will grow to love Huntsville. Be thankful you are getting to stay in Alabama!!